Survivor Stories on the HER Blog — We Are HER

Stories from survivors across the globe plus a few educational pieces from the HER team too.

Silly Girl

Silly Girl

Life teases you with a mirage of happiness -Marie

Uncategorized, ContributersMarieJune 11, 2020We Are HERmourning, promises, loss, healing journey, sadComment

Looking for Value After Abuse

Looking for Value After Abuse

We find ourselves being critical about ourselves, but for others we find compassion. If you forgot the birthday of your friend you’d possibly think “I’m a horrible person” but if it was the other way around you’d think “I understand because he/she is super busy and it’s not all about me”. - Namaste allday

HealNAMASTE ALLDAYJune 8, 2020We Are HERhealing, self worth, self image, mental health, emotions, insecure, worthyComment

How Trauma Affects Our Bodies and Mental Health

How Trauma Affects Our Bodies and Mental Health

Watch the recording of our online workshop on How Trauma Affects Our Mental Health led by Desi Garcia of Candle in a Dark Room.

HealADMINMay 27, 2020mental health, healing, traumaComment

The Second Death of Losing My Home

The Second Death of Losing My Home

My tween/teenage self did not know how to understand, recognize and claim the language describing the emotional abandonment as well as abuse practiced by my dead mom without being overwhelmed by more trauma than I could handle at the time. -Jourdan Lobban

Emotional AbuseGuest UserApril 16, 2020We Are HERfamilial abuse, faith, trauma, tragedy, emotional abuseComment

Self Talk

Self Talk

The way we talk to ourselves is important. -KellyMaida

Restore, HealKellyMaidaMarch 31, 2020We Are HERself image, self love, self worth, self care, affermationsComment

Looking for the Lion

Looking for the Lion

Trauma turns you into a maladaptively-wired zebra. The lion leaves, but you remain on high alert. -as_i_sit_in_silence

HealAs_I_Sit_in_SilenceMarch 26, 2020We Are Herresponse, therapy, boundaries, mental health, healing journeyComment

It is Safe to Cry

It is Safe to Cry

It is safe to cry. It’s ok to cry.

-KellyMaida

Heal, Uncategorized, ContributersKellyMaidaMarch 24, 2020trauma, emotional abuse, healing, emotions, strengthComment

Getting Help

Getting Help

I never knew just how hard it was to get any type of assistance until I was almost murdered.

-KellyMaida

StalkingKellyMaidaMarch 17, 2020We Are Herfinancial abuse, help, threats, leaving, stalkingComment

Fear

Fear

Some people are just so used to their fear based consciousness, that it becomes a daily part of life.

-KellyMaida

Empower, HealKellyMaidaMarch 10, 2020We Are Herfear, family, safety, healing journey, breaking the cycleComment

Unresolved Issues from Inner Childhood

Unresolved Issues from Inner Childhood

Have you ever had some memories on a constant loop? Like an old record that keeps playing the same song? And you try to stop it but it keeps on playing.

-KellyMaida

Heal, EmpowerKellyMaidaMarch 3, 2020We Are Herhealing, child survivor, therapy, self care, cycle of abuse, trauma, forgivenessComment

Cutting out toxic people

Cutting out toxic people

Part of the healing process is cutting out toxic people in your life. -kellymaida

Stevie CroisantFebruary 25, 2020

Life After Trauma

Life After Trauma

Life after trauma is difficult to explain if you have never been through it. -kellymaida

HealKellyMaidaFebruary 19, 2020trauma, healingComment

The Effects of Yelling

The Effects of Yelling

Why is it that people get so comfortable yelling? -kellymaida

Emotional AbuseKellyMaidaFebruary 17, 2020yelling, anger, healingComment

This Is Me

This Is Me

There is nothing more important than connecting with a community of those with similar backgrounds by beautiful empowered women with the sole intention of supporting and uniting us as ALL as one. How special is that? -AlyssaCalderonWinchester

Sexual Assault, Physical AbuseAlyssaFebruary 11, 2020healing, trauma, mental healthComment

Punishing Children: Let’s Break Toxic Cycles

Punishing Children: Let’s Break Toxic Cycles

All parents punish their children in one form or another. Sometimes it is a time out or yelling. But I am talking about harsher punishments. - kellymaida

HealKellyMaidaFebruary 10, 2020childhood, abuse, trauma, healingComment

When is it safe to say you’re healed?

When is it safe to say you’re healed?

I brought up this topic from seeing so many articles on the wounded healer. The healer I am referring to is the spiritual healer, the energy healer but also the counselor. The healer can have a lot of meanings. -KellyMaida

HealKellyMaidaFebruary 3, 2020wounded healiner, healing, healing journey, trauma, trauma survivorComment

Creative Ways to Deal with Anger

Creative Ways to Deal with Anger

Anger is part of the grieving process we go through. -kellymaida

HealKellyMaidaJanuary 27, 2020healing, anger

The Funeral

The Funeral

Moscow mules. Gluhwein. Holiday dresses. Hallmark movies. For most people, these are traditions they look forward to every year. For me and I am sure other readers out there - this a list of triggers. When you have/had an unhealthy person in your life, special occasions become instances you dread. -As_I_Sit_In_Silence

Emotional AbuseAs_I_Sit_in_SilenceJanuary 14, 2020holidays, abuse, manipulation, control, recovery, healingComment

Breaking Out of My Silence

Breaking Out of My Silence

Empower, Heal, UncategorizedKellyMaidaNovember 26, 2019domestic violence, empowerment, end your silence, healing, love, self love, self worth, share, silence, survivorComment

How Nature Helped Me Find Myself

How Nature Helped Me Find Myself

Empower, HealExodusNovember 25, 2019abuse, domestic violence, God, heal, healing, Nature, self love, self worthComment